The Army...

...is as family-friendly as the KKK likes black people and gays.

I am completely and utterly disgusted with the Army, at least the people in the Army that I have the unfortunate experience of dealing with.

I was extremely sick on Monday, vomiting all day and unable to eat anything since Sunday night. My husband is still out in the field and asked to come home to take care of me. His commander informed him that he could if I went to the hospital. I have a phobia about hospitals and hoped to sleep it off, so I refused. His platoon sgt, who isn't in the field and in charge of him anyway at the moment, tried to bully me into going - I refused and he continued to act as if I was and he was taking me.
I woke up late Monday night even more sick and was losing vision in my right eye. After not being allowed to come home, my husband called an ambulance for me. I was in the emergency room - but apparently it wasn't en emergency, as his commander decided no, he couldn't go after all after specifically saying if I ended up in the hospital she'd give him leave to see me. Then he was told he could leave if the hospital requested him. I asked the doctor who explained the only way they could is if it was a red cross, a life-threatening emergency. No one had explained this to me or my husband. After spending five hours at the ER, and not having a ride home either, I was told someone from my husband's detachment was coming to get me.
It was the sgt whom I had previously fought with - who made me wait over an hour and a half in the ER waiting room before finally showing up. After dropping me off - without a word, after I thanked him - I was mad, not rude - he sent a text to my husband saying that they were going to have words when he returned.

Excuse me? About WHAT? My car not being operable? Even if it was, I was in no condition to drive myself to the ER at one in the morning, I couldn't see out of my right eye. I could barely walk.

If they had told my husband, right away, that he couldn't come see me unless it was a life-threatening emergency, both he and I would have understood and been able to plan around it. Finding someone else to take me back and forth, for one. As it stands, they tricked and misled my husband while I was in the emergency room, letting him think he'd be able to at least take me home before going, "Whoops, did we say that? Sucker!"

I've had to deal with Army bullshit before. They weren't going to allow my husband leave - after it had been accepted for over three months - for us to get married until a friend pulled some strings and got some people yelled at. Suddenly, his 'lost' paper reappeared like it had never been gone. My husband is the only one in his squad who hasn't been allowed to use his comp day - every time he requests it, they're too busy and can't spare him.

I understand the Army is full of crap and that nothing in life is fair. But this sort of mistreatment, misleading and completely unfeeling and uncaring amazed me. My husband works hard and enjoys his job, he likes fixing things. He's one of the last to leave and is willing to do the hard work. I could see if he was a slacker or troublemaker, even I'd get on his case. And I don't know anything about the Army, I've only been married three months. To trick and mislead him while I was in the hospital is just a low blow with no excuse for it. It was inexcusable and reprehensible behavior that's unfitting for a commander and sgt to engage in.

And I'm supposed to trust these people to do what's best for me and my husband? They showed very clearly last night that they could not care less - excuse me, they could care less, but they took the time to lie to him instead.